My mom has always taken my name change personally- she “wanted" me to be a girl and like the name she picked out, so I’m “erasing" her by having a different identity.

I also came out in middle school and faced huge amounts of bullying and harassment from my peers and occasionally teachers. I also am nonbinary, but had to assume the role of a binary trans boy because of the confusion being genderqueer brings. My parents were somewhat active in my live and transition, but not enough for me to consider them my advocates. I did all that myself.

No meetings were had between my parents and teachers, only with me. They took me to a gender therapist twice, but I wasnt allowed to return after she suggested a medical transition would be beneficial for me.

My mom sees herself as a tireless warrior for my identity, but she’s the one that refuses to let me medically transition. She’s the same one that takes a name change personally, despite it having been five years since I started going by my chosen name.